Last night she lost control of her bowels and this morning she was bleeding from her eyes and her vulva. I decided it was time, even though she ate her dinner and was somewhat active. It was so hard and I am suffering now....it only happened a few hours ago. I hope she is at peace and knows that I love her. Does anyone know of ways to cope with this loss and grief?
I have been asking about my dog Daisy who has been sick with lymphoma. Today I decided to put her down.?
Hello JJ I'm so very sorry for the loss of your dog my heart goes out to you. The loss of beloved pet is very hard we all grieve differently losing my Pekingese to cancer 6 months ago broke my heart. I started doing something in memory for my dogs when I lost Maggie my female Pekingese 5 years ago her death was very hard she died young and suddenly I planted a tree in memory of her in my yard I put a small stepping stone in front of the tree with her name on it then i set her favorite toy next to the tree.This helped me so much I now do this for my dogs when they pass away. I don't know how or what to say to help you with the loss of your beloved dog it will take time and it's ok to be sad and to grieve I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Reply:I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is so hard, but it does get a little better every day that goes by. My breeder told me that the best thing you can do when you have a dog that is going to pass or if your dog has already passed is get a new puppy. Some people may not think that this is a great idea or they may feel bad about it. But I can assure you it really does work because you get attached to the new puppy very quickly. I know that you will never replace daisy, but it is really great to have a new friend to keep you busy and help you get through this tough time.
Reply:I am so sorry, it is very tough to lose a pet. Years ago we lost a pet after he was hit by a car. You will grieve for her just like any family member, because they do become part of the family. Hold onto the thought she is not suffering anymore. They say when you lose a pet to replace them as soon as possible, but only when you are ready.
Reply:In our state and my fiele (funeral services) it is not at all unusual to have your pet cremated and keep the ashed in special pet urn, or ditribute them in special place you two had (the backyard, a park, etc.)
It was not cruel or cold of you to think what was best for your pet, I still remember when we chose to put our dog to sleep about ten years ago, due to age...... it's better to give your pet good times than to have their pain and life be difficult for both of you-- if only people where as feeling when it came to people...
My heart and prayers go out to you......
The link below gives info about pet los and even has pet prayers you can say in memory of your pet
Reply:going through the same thing right now. my dog has cancer in her mouth and can leave anytime now until i want to put her down if she is in a lot of pain. just remember she is in a better place and that what i have to tell myself when my dog passes. im in the 8th grade and i have my god since i was in the 1st grade. its hard to let go but we are going to have to all some time or another with our pets. :)
Reply:Sending you a hug and a prayer. So sorry for your loss.
I lost a dog today too. Freak accident. Perfectly healthy. Slipped on the floor and broke her back.
Try to remember as long as they live in our hearts they never really die.
How to cope... I wish I knew. My heart is breaking here too. Just wanted you to know someone else truly knows how you feel tonight.
Reply:I am so sorry to hear this. But I also comend you. You did the best thing you could of for Daisy. I know how it feels to loose a pet espically when the pet is so muched loved by their family. The way i have coped with loosing a pet is always reminding myself that they are in a better place and free of pain. And that one day i will see them again. It still take a very longtime to get over the loss but hopefully this will help set your mind at ease a little. God Bless
Reply:I am so sorry. I've seen many people post this rainbow bridge poem...and I finally decided to check it out. I was in tears....but I think it would be very comforting for you during this time. I'll keep you and Daisy in my thoughts.
http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2...
Reply:I just wanted to say that I am sorry. It is a difficult thing to do, but just remember that you did the right thing given the circumstances.
Reply:I'm sorry about the loss of your dog. You did the right thing and your dog knows you did the right thing. Go to Petloss.com. It's a site for those who have lost a pet. :)
Reply:I am so sorry..that's makes me want to cry :( Contact the humane society, I think they have "loss of pet coping classes" or they can direct you elsewhere.
Reply:nothing. just remember you gave it a good life and you put it out of its misery.
Reply:So sorry about your loss. I lost my GSD who I was very attached to, about seven yrs ago. It was the hardest thing to let her go, but she was suffering a lot as well. You did the right thing for your dog.
That's one thing that will help you, to recognize how she was suffering compared to her quality of life. Dogs don't show their pain as easily as people but by what you described she was certainly in a lot of pain.
What helped me was to write to my dog, like writing a letter without thinking what I would say. Say anything I wanted to as if talking to her where she could understand, and I later wrote another that was a "good-bye" letter.
I made sure to take care of myself even when I didn't feel like it. I wrote a poem for her and put it behind a photo that is still displayed with photos of family including my current three dogs.
There's a site called "Rainbow Bridge". Here's a poem from it and other links:
http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rai...
There was a beautiful site with imagery to the poem "The Rainbow Bridge", but that site I won't link to because of a warning that the site may send spammy e-mails if you leave your e-mail there.
Reply:I am so deeply sorry, my heart goes out to you! My husband had to put down his 15 yr old Cockapoo 3 years ago. He was a fierce little boy. I came into "Boomers" life in the end. He taught me a great deal of patience, patience, patience! He was a tough puppy. We got up one morning and my husband made the call to the vet. Fo his last year of life he could no longer eat, see, hear, control his movements at all. I went with my hubby to put him down and they brought him back to us to say our last good bye. I was devasted and felt the end of the world had come. I cried my heart out that whole day and night. Called my friends, anyone who would hear my pain of our lost. I learned thru him what is unconditional love means. Our home was empty,sad and in a lot of pain in loosing this wonderful creature that had a life in him and gave us much more than we gave him. They are all God's creatures. That being said-2 days of complete davastation and sadness and much crying, my husband and daughter walked in the house with a 8 week old Siberian husky who did not replace Boomer but just took over his duties to fulfill our home once again with so my love and happiness and yes lots of bad puppy time! 3 years later after our beloved Boomer has been missed but not forgotten, we added another little sister to our Husky(Missy)-she is a 12 pound Cockapoo who reminds us of our Boomer except that she turned out to be half his size but the same mentality! My husbband rescued her :) Things happen for a reason and "Boomer" decided that we would not forget him so here we are with what we say- "Casey came to us but it's Boomer all over again". The moral to the story , you don't forget them or replace them- just love them and there are so many to love! I hope this will help. Our thoughts and prayers are with you!
Reply:So sorry for your loss. I know what you are going through as I had to have my 10 year old dog put to sleep in January. I will tell you that I still think of her every day, and it still hurts that she is not here with me. I know that what I did was the right thing to do and that she is now in a better place where she can run free of pain. I still cry for her, but as the months go by the pain lessens when I think of her and only the fond memories remain. I found a poem which helped me and I'm passing it on to you with the sincere hope that it will help you too. My heart goes out to you in this time of sorry and loss. Just go ahead and cry, find some people who you can talk to about your beloved dog and remember the happy times you had together.
FROM FRIEND TO FRIEND
You're giving me a special gift,
So sorrowfully endowed,
And through these last few cherished days,
Your courage makes me proud.
But really, love is knowing
When your best friend is in pain,
And understanding earthly acts
Will only be in vain.
So looking deep into your eyes,
Beyond, into your soul,
I see in you the magic, that will
Once more make me whole.
The strength that you possess,
Is why I look to you today,
To do this thing that must be done,
For it's the only way.
That strength is why I've followed you,
And chose you as my friend,
And why I've loved you all these years...
My partner 'til the end.
Please, understand just what this gift,
You're giving, means to me,
It gives me back the strength I've lost,
And all my dignity.
You take a stand on my behalf,
For that is what friends do.
And know that what you do is right,
For I believe it too.
So one last time, I breathe your scent,
And through your hand I feel,
The courage that's within you,
To now grant me this appeal.
Cut the leash that holds me here,
Dear friend, and let me run,
Once more a strong and steady dog,
My pain and struggle done.
And don't despair my passing,
For I won't be far away,
Forever here, within your heart,
And memory I'll stay.
I'll be there watching over you,
Your ever faithful friend,
And in your memories I'll run,
...a young dog once again.
Reply:JJ, I don't think I can say much to make you feel any better, but I do want to say how very sorry I am, for the loss of your best friend! Losing an animal and having to make the decision to do what's best for them, is probably going to be one of the most heartbreaking decisions, you will ever have to make, and no one wants to make a decision like that. I'm sure she is at peace, and I'm also sure that she knows that you love her. It's going to take some time, to get used to the fact that's she's no longer here.She will always remain deep in your heart and no one can take that away from you.She may be gone, but she will never be forgotten. My prayers are with you! Here is a little something that may help, just a little, until you both meet again at the Rainbow Bridge!
http://www.pet-loss-matters.com/Grief-po...
http://www.fourpawsinheaven.com/poetry/p...
http://www.pet-loss-matters.com/grief-po...
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